Who can turn the world on with a smile? Who can take a nothing day, and suddenly make it all seem worth while?

There is some famous dialogue from the movie Romy and Michelle's High School Reunion about who was the Mary and who was the Rhoda, of course referring to the classic Mary Tyler Moore Show, the first couple of times that I saw the movie I got the general jist of it which was that Mary was the pretty one, and Rhoda was the funny sidekick. It wasn't until I started checking out episodes of the show on Hulu that I really began to understand what they meant by it.

After watching a couple of episodes it was plain to see that I was definitely the Rhoda in most of my adult friendships. Not just because I was the funny sidekick but because whenever Mary was in the room, Rhoda always seemed to be ignored, and boy could I identify with that in a major way. I have had two major relationships that totally fit into this situation, that was with my best friend Eric (aka KnuckleCrack) and more recently with my best friend Chad.

You see they are both drop dead gorgeous men, and I will have to admit that with both of them our relationship began with me being totally head over heels in love with them. I wanted the big wedding the 2.5 children and the beautiful house in the Hills and brownstone in NYC, but alas they were never attracted to me in that way. Usually when this happens to me I just move on and go about my life, but something amazing happened with these two gentlemen besides being shining examples of the male species they turned out to be amazing men, that got me completely, and who I got as well.

Our relationships would be amazing one on one or in small groups at someone's house, but the whole Mary/Rhoda thing would rear its ugly head anytime we would go out to a social situation such as a club, or a 12 step meeting. You see, them being these totally hot Adonises they would get all of the attention in the room, and me being the attention whore that I am would get insanely jealous of them. Most attention whores crave attention because they didn't get it as a child but for me that is the total opposite experience, I wasn't the only child but I might as well have been, because my parents were ALWAYS there for me and coddled my every need and want. So with Eric I still hadn't dealt with these issues and I would constantly go home and cry, or use meth because he would get the hot man ALWAYS, but luckily for me I met Chad in rehab, and I got to explore all these different feelings in a safe environment.

I got to go through all these feelings of insecurity while I was in rehab, I spoke about them in group and with my counselors and therapist, and even with Chad himself, and I have grown as a man immensely since then, in fact it was Chad's high self esteem that rubbed off on me to the degree that I began to have total self confidence in my looks, personality and abilities, and for that I am truly thankful.

My song pick for this week is a song that always tugs at my heart when it comes to my great friends, and that is Alanis Morissete's “Everything”! LOVE YA GIRL!