It's Hard to speak my heart...

Well I am faced with a bit of a situation which involves ethics, the safety of anonymity at meetings, and possibly avoiding a scary situation. There was this couple who are both in the rooms (aka they go to meetings) and they were quite the hot couple, and very much envied by people in the rooms because they were so stunning. A few months into their relationship they broke up, and one of them began sharing at meetings that he was being beaten by this other man. I lost all respect I had for this man, because I obviously don't respect abusers of any kind. I have avoided him at all costs and not said anything to him in a while.

Cut to the present, one of my roommates is hanging out with this man (the abuser) and is considering dating him when the man gets some more time under his belt. In the past I have been known to meddle in other people's business and I have been trying to change that about myself. I have been doing a pretty good job I think, but this puts me in a bit of a situation. First there is the whole morality of anonymity and the fact that you should not repeat what you hear at meetings to anyone else, not even if they are in the program. I also don't want my roommate and dear friend to fall into a relationship that may end up being abusive. The relationship is nowhere near being a true relationship, and I am keeping my mouth shut because of that. There is also a part of me that says, maybe he has changed. Why should I judge him on things he has allegedly done in the past. I mean I wouldn't want people to judge me for things I did when I was using, but then again he was sober when he beat up his boyfriend. I am truly torn about what to do. I think I will probably shut up, and keep it to myself, and the two or three of you that read this, but if anything does start growing, relationship-wise I may have to consult my therapist and/or sponsor about it. Oh well...